a little girl who grows up thinking all doors are automatic but actually she’s haunted by a really polite ghost
There’s a book on this: http://www.amazon.com/gp/aw/d/0802473156?pc_redir=1406006012&robot_redir=1
Be warned though, I’m almost certain this is steeped in religious themes. It’s good advice-about exactly what it says on the tin. Other than that I remember it being pretty heteronormative, among other things (it’s been a while though, someone who’s read this more recently should chip in).
I do think it’s very true though, that some people like being touched, while others like gifts, etc etc, and sometimes the love being expressed by a person isn’t being adequately understood and received by their family, friends, and/or significant other(s).